you owe it to yourself

I think you owe it to yourself to stop worrying so much.

About the bills you have to pay, about what people have to say about you, and about when you’re going fall in love. It’s great to have goals and to want to put your best foot forward, but I don’t think we ever stop to think about how much our worry is costing us. Why does it matter if you’ve paid back your student loans or gotten married by the time you’ve turned 30? Do you think that means something about your life if it does or does not happen? Yes, it’s important to think about the long-term, but please don’t discount what’s in front of you. We can’t just store away our lives for the day we have it all together.

I think you owe it to yourself to do that thing you’ve always wanted to do.

You know, the thing your heart always comes back to when there’s a lull in your day. I think you need to go for it even if you’re not exactly sure where it might lead, what it might look like or if you’d be any good at it. You want to start a blog? Write that first post. You want to learn a new skill? Buy what you need and take a class. You want to start traveling more? Book a freaking ticket. Far too often we get paralyzed by the build-up. We think too much about the ‘what’s’ and the ‘how’s’ and the ‘what-ifs’ that we never actually get around to just doing it. I think life would be a whole better if you just realized that sometimes you have to build the boat out at sea. And let me just remind you: YOU ARE NOT TOO OLD AND IT IS NOT TOO LATE TO START. As long as you’ve still got air in your lungs and a calling on your heart, you can always begin something new.

I think you owe it to yourself to move on.

Not because the love wasn’t real or because it isn’t still painful. But because lIfe is far too short to spend it pining after something that wasn’t meant for you. I know it’s hard to imagine life without them and I know it’s scary to think about starting over; but you deserve a love that is unconditional, a love that is a kind, and a love that chooses you. Even if that means it’ll be awhile before you find it. It won’t be easy and it might hurt like hell, but I promise there will come a day when you find yourself living life without the person you never thought you could be without. And on that day you’ll be so grateful you decided to let go.

I think you owe it to yourself to forgive them.

Him, her, and yourself. I know sometimes it feels better to hold onto anger. It’s like we somehow convince ourselves that we’re stronger for it– that it’ll protect us from getting hurt. But I think it’s time we realize choosing not to forgive is only destructive to ourselves. It’s prideful, immature, and whether we choose to admit it or not, it’s the easy way out. Forgiving is hard. It forces us to be humble. It forces us to take a second look and realize the humanness of our aggressor. But we don’t forgive for the sake of others, we forgive for the sake of our own hearts. Just imagine the space you’d free up if you just stopped holding onto what was hurting you. Think of how much lighter you’d travel through this world if you met every single transgression with grace. 70×7– remember that.

I think you owe it to yourself to fall hopelessly in love with the person you are and the life you’ve been given.

I think it’s time you stop wishing your nose was smaller or that your hair was different. Stop wondering about what your life would be like if you had a different family, more money in your bank account, or a better body. Instead, spend more time with yourself. Pay attention to the songs that make your spirit come to life. Notice interactions between strangers in the street that make your heart full. Admire the depth of your eyes and the softness in your belly and the way your head tilts back when you’re laughing. Take inventory of the people you’re grateful for. Keep stock of your favorite memories. Lay in the grass under the sun when your soul feels tired.

I know we hear it all the time, but we can’t redo yesterday and we don’t know what will happen tomorrow. All we have is right now. And if I told you that this “right now” is all you had left, what would you do differently?

I think we all need to start appreciating where we are at in this moment and stop losing sleep over our yesterday’s and tomorrow’s. Yes, I know your life may not look the way you want it to. I know you wish were further along in your career, or that you were finished with school already, or that you didn’t waste so much time. But do not let that discourage you– the place you are in right now is not a mistake. You were meant to be here in this space, in this season, for a such a time as this.

So please stop wondering when you’ll get there, stop holding yourself back, and start doing more of what makes your heart come to life.

You at least owe it to yourself to see where it will take you.